The Art of Letting Go

Letting go is a sadly and badly formulated process each life form goes through. Everyone-animals,people,aliens probably- experiences the process detaching themselves from a certain subject.It is depressing and hurting so much more in letting go of people whom we have devoted so much trust in and depended our happiness on.Sad but true,it's hard to find the good out of "goodbye".

Yeah,yeah,yeah..I know I'm getting too sentimental and cheesy, and some of you might be yucking and laughing right now.But I tell you-dependency is no laughing matter.

When you talk about dependency,it is a psycho mental feeling of too much attachment or dependence people experience towards a certain subject.People who are codependent are those who find it hardest to let go.These are people who usually come from dysfunctional families and lives with rigid disciplines.

Other people acquire dependency while young....Others develop it in a later life..These are people who tend to be so tight with themselves, handcuffing their own hands, and chocking their own necks. These are those who never want to talk about problems nor want to express emotions openly. These are those who never convey messages directly.These are people who have wrong notions or perfection and hot up for too much self-righteousness that they can't even afford to have fun. As a result, they seek for it in other people.These people, or sometimes just one person became the center of their lives, the subject of their all-out attention and affection.They become too much attached that they would tolerate everything so not to lose them. Others may become too comfortable as being needed that they put themselves too close and too intimate with people who would rather have some space for themselves...Because of their want to please,thge tend to meet a certain standards in order to feel good.They crave for approval,they thirst for attention, nad they long to be needed. They are afraid of committing mistakes,of being punished, and of not being loved...

Letting go is hard but ineviatble.Somehow,in some ways. we have done and will go through it...What we must understand is that we are born as individuals.We need our sense of privacy as much as we need to belong.We may desire to be needed but let us set limits in each of our relationships and in the process of letting go,,may we never lose our sense of individualism and self-worth...Maybe then, we can get something Good out of GOODBYE....